As I observe this dynamic (not only in others, but in myself), I see the power of our belief in these negative assessments.

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"I had to step back and let her see what I knew all along" about the past significant others in her life, Eddie says.

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Others here don't quite see it that way, like a man I met in Gaza's old market who would only identify himself as Abu Khalid.

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Because I think some people would see themselves, you know, driving in a certain brand of car, where others would see themselves, you know, putting on a certain type of lingerie.

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