Self-respect arises only outof people who play an active role in solving their own crises and who are not helpless, passive, puppet-like recipients of private or public services.
Only a few authors (so far) have been definitively found out, and none of them have really lost anything, except for a bit of self-respect and for some that appears to be expendable anyway.
It turns out that in addition to the potential for walk-ins by significant others and soul-crushing lack of self-respect in the morning, would-be Internet Lotharios now have to worry about being blackmailed.