But the key is not to start with yourself as the hero.

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Far better to start with a story and then to ask yourself the most important and least asked (in my opinion) question in decision making: what could change my mind?

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Amazon tends to be more do-it-yourself, with a tilt towards start-ups.

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You can start with a show, actor, or whatever and quickly find yourself seven degrees in any direction, including a Netflix or Amazon VOD selection.

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Starting a company might seem like a daunting task, but the truth is, you can set yourself up for it the way you would for any career: Do the research, make the connections, align yourself with great people, and then get start tackling the work.

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Or you find yourself in a regular conversation, and you start talking with excitement about an idea.

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The authors believe that centered leadership is a journey, not a destination, and it must start with the personal decision to look in the mirror and begin by transforming yourself.

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You start blaming yourself, thinking I must be doing something wrong, there's something wrong with my child.

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You sign up and start posting information about yourself: photographs, employment history, why you are peeved right now with the gummy-bear selection at Rite Aid or bullish about prospects for peace in the Middle East.

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You don't, like, overly expose yourself so that you can - you will end up having to make an arrest to start off with and then escalate the situation out of control.

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