In our affections, in our caring, who we like, who we feel close to, whose pain bothers us, we are not indiscriminate.

我们对他人的喜爱，对他人的关心，我们喜欢谁，与谁亲近，在乎谁的痛苦，并非一视同仁的。

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And they continue to support or to practice self-esteem as indiscriminate praise, ultimately hurting more than helping.

他们依然认为,提升自尊就要不加区别地赞扬，这最终造成的伤害大于帮助。

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