And there is a self-enforcing loop between the two, where helping others helps ourselves; and helping ourselves, in turn, helps others.

两者间有自我实施的循环，帮助他人就是帮助自己;,帮助自己继而帮助他人。

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There's a lot of research to show that helping ourselves, in other words, working on our happiness, contributing to our wellbeing, leads us to also be more generous and benevolent toward others.

很多研究表明自我帮助，换言之，努力为自己争取快乐，有助我们获得幸福，也能引导我们对他人更加宽容和亲切。

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You need a hero to help you, and having that hero, encountering the other mind as helper, is what obviates the tendency, even in a nice guy like Tony, toward narcissism which is manifest in the "I," "I," "I" at the beginning of the story.

他能帮助你，有了他的帮助，就可以避免自我陶醉的趋势，即便是托尼这么好的人，也可能会有这一趋势,总是用，“我“，“我“，“我“来开头。

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