Explain yourself and not the other person, so you can speak out your ideas by starting with "I" but not "You".
解释自己（的想法）而不是他人，这样你就能以“我”而不是“你”开始说出你的想法。
Please realize, however, that the dynamics of your relationship is the problem, not the other person.
但请意识到这是由于你们关系的不断变化所引起的，而不是因为对方。
I was once in a meeting where somebody not in the meeting sent an IM to the person sharing his desktop, that disparaged one of the other meeting participants.
我曾在参与的一个会议中看到，某个没有参会的人向共享桌面的人发送了一条即时信息，其中对某个参加会议的人有不敬之词。
The other person "might realise she's not as trapped as you are saying she is, or as she feels."
另一个人“可能意识到她并不像你说的那样或她感觉的那样处于困境中”。
That means not always making yourself "right" or "clever" and the other person "wrong" or "stupid".
这意味着不要总是让自己变得“正确”或“聪明”，而让别人变得“错误”或“愚蠢”。
So if you are not right and the other person is not wrong, what are the other options?
所以，当你不是正确的，而其他的人不是错误的，那么其他的选择是什么呢？
If I don't say these words, the other people would think that I'm not a well-behaved person.
如果我不说这些话，其它人将认为我不是一个行为端正的人。
Forgiving was more for me to make a better life and not so much to absolve the other person of what I perceived to be their wrongdoing.
宽恕对我来说，不仅仅是使生活更加美好，也并不是原谅我认为有不端行为的人。
What are the things that I am not willing to do, but the other person may be so wiling to do that could be the factor in them being more successful than me?
什么是我不愿意做的，而其他人更愿意做并且比我更成功的因素？
In either case, problems like these are not about the other person, they're about us.
无论是什么情况，像这样的问题都不是因为其他人，而是我们自己。
However, the other person might not know that and could become offended by what may appear to be rudeness.
然而，另一个人对此也许并不知晓，并对这一显得粗鲁无礼的行为感到被冒犯。
Perhaps you are not an academic person but you see the same kind of attitude in other areas.
可能你并不是一位学术人员，但你也会在其他领域看到同样的态度。
For example, two people might not E-mail each other, but they may talk regularly over the phone or in person.
举例来说，两个人可能不通过电子邮件联系对方，但是他们可以通过电话或亲自见面联系。
This means [keeping the issue private] not only during the conversation, but also after. This will help the other person feel safe talking to you and remedying the problem.
这是指不仅在谈话中，而且在谈话之后(都不要将问题公开化)，这会让人们感觉到和你谈话、改善这个问题令人放心。
The thoughts, views, and opinions expressed in this paper are solely mine, and do not necessarily reflect nor agree with the views of any other person or organization.
本文中表达的思想、观点，和意见完全是我的，并且没必要反映或赞同任何其他个人或组织的观点。
Other person has the * of your life, because you can not move yourself, you are expecting from others.
因为你无法自拔的指望着他人，别人也因此控制了你的生活。
Sometimes both people realize the relationship has reached its end; sometimes one person feels this way when the other does not.
有时，两个人都觉得一份感情该结束了；但有时，这只是一个人的想法，而对方并不这么认为。
And the principle of charity you observe when you argue in order not to do the irrational thing and to assume the other person is wrong rather than assume that you have misunderstood them.
你们看到的清晰性的规则，当你们为了不做非理性的事而争论时，并假设另一个人错了，而不是假设你误解了他们。
Two, it’s not OK to make the person you’re gazing at (or other people who witness you looking) uncomfortable.
第二，但不能令你看的那个人（或见证这一幕的人）反感。
It is not just for the other person that you forgive, but for yourself, so you don't waste your life angry with someone or continue to hold a grudge.
这不仅仅是对于某个人的宽恕，而是宽恕你自己，所以你不必浪费生命生某人的气，或者一直对某人耿耿于怀。
It's counterproductive listening, in which you're not really listening to the other person at all.
这是相反结果的倾听。在这种情况下，你根本就没有听对方在讲什么。
Finally, imagine what it would be like to allow yourself to accept that these elements are inside of you - part of you, not some foreign features that are in the other person.
最终，想象如果你允许自己接受你内在的这些特质会怎样？ - - -把他们当作你的一部分，而不是别人身上的外源特征。
I’m aware of the many sides of the other person----not just the beautiful side but also the limitations, inconsistencies and flaws.
我认识到对方的许多方面，不仅是美丽闪光的一面，还有能力上的不足、反复无常和性格上的缺陷。
That's one reason my love is not always happy, because just loving the other person is no guarantee that both of you can be fully satisfied with what happens to each of you.
这是爱情并非总是幸福的原因之一，仅仅是爱一个人并不能保证，你们两个都对彼此对自己的做法，完全满意。
Forgiving is hard when you are hurt repeatedly. Forgiving is hard when the other person does not seem to be sorry.
当你被沉重的伤害了，当你被反复伤害时，当对方没有任何悔意时，做到谅解是很困难的。
When you cosign for any credit, you serve as the guarantor of the account, meaning if the other person for whom you co-signed does not pay, you become responsible for the account.
当你是一个贷款担保人的话，你将成为银行账户的保护人，这意味着如果被担保人无力偿还，你将对他的财务负责。
If you are not sure, then ask the other person to respect your feelings and to give you time.
如果你犹豫不决，就直言相告，请对方尊重你的感受，并给你时间。
Influencing is getting events to happen by convincing the other person that your way is the better way - even if it's not what they want.
影响是通过说服他人认可你的方法是最好的方法来达成目标-即使那并不是他们所希望的。
Influencing is getting events to happen by convincing the other person that your way is the better way - even if it's not what they want.
影响是通过说服他人认可你的方法是最好的方法来达成目标-即使那并不是他们所希望的。
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