Maybeyouthinkall the negative-selftalkis your way of being real with yourself. Little things like: I’ll never get it done, I don’t deserve that, why would theywant to helpme?
Punitive damages are damages that aren't just trying to make somebody whole, but they're extra damages that are put on somebody because they did something bad and you're trying to discourage other people from doing these bad things and maybe even just punish the person or the corporation because you think they deserveit.
So maybe instead of thinking low-skilled natives deserve help the most, you think Haitian refugees are most deserving, and maybe I think it is orphans from Bangladesh.