It seems to me that we might all need a crash course in what makes a good partner, the value of commitment, how to respectyourself and others, and communicating your needs 101.
If you are the one told to back off and respect boundaries, ask yourself a question and answer honestly: Were you acting out of concern, or were you trying to fulfill some unmet need of your own?
But you can make the process easier on everyone, particularly yourself, by showing respect and support, remaining open and honest, and continuing to do phenomenal work.