Hacking back across third party systems is more self help than self defense (rarely is the command and control computer linked directly to the system being attacked).
This social capitalism is driven by collaboration and sharing, by the replacement of command and control by self-organising ecosystems of independent producers of software, apps and even components.
The lessons she learned about withholding judgment are evident as she considers the scandalous, self-destructive women her age who command so much tabloid attention.
Similarly, when an octopus changes skin color in self-defense, such as by mimicking a poisonous sea snake, the decision may come not from central command but from the skin itself.