Your younger brother, Alan, followed in your footsteps and used to play drums for Oasis. There is no point in asking how proud you are of him, but is there any brotherly rivalry?

Rather than follow the example of his accusers, we should perhaps honour Socrates's exhortation to "know ourselves", to be individually honest, to do what we, not the next man, knows to be right.

Don't let that be you. Take control of your life and decide how you want to live. You can go after your dreams if you choose to.