E : Explain to yourself what Stosny calls your "deepest core hurt" that lies behind the anger, such as feeling unlovable, disregarded or powerless.
E：第二步，自我反省，找出藏在愤怒情绪背后的被Stosny称为“最深层伤痛”，比如觉得没有人爱我，我被忽视了或者我太无助了。
People who view themselves as unlovable find saying that they are so unbelievable that it strengthens their own negative view rather than reversing it.
自认为并不可爱的人会发现，说出那些连自己都不会相信的话，不仅不会扭转他们对自己的消极看法，反而会强化这种看法。
They become opportunities for learning instead of proof that we are not good enough, unlovable, unworthy or undeserving of what we want.
它们将转变为学习的机会，而非用来证明我们不够好、不能被爱、没有价值或是不值得拥有我们所渴望的一切。
God's love has to move us to reach out to the people God has placed in our lives. You and I are asked to love the unlovable-unselfishly and unconditionally.
神的爱要感动我们去接触祂放在我们生命当中的人，神要你和我无私和无条件地去爱那些不可爱的人。
Because someone didn't love me didn't mean I was unlovable.
因为一个人不爱我并不意味着我不可爱。
Because someone didn't love me didn't mean I was unlovable.
因为一个人不爱我并不意味着我不可爱。
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